The conversation wasn’t under the best circumstances, but my sentiment of love had been sent.  There was nothing else for me to do but continue with my daily wonderings.  Two days later, I was involved in an accident that could have subtracted me from this equation.  By the grace of God, I am still here.   I can happily say that someone knows that I have good feelings towards them.  It is to my great pleasure that I did so given my current situation.

Yes, there are many lessons for me to learn from the accident. However, the point that I want to focus upon is time, and its value to you.  A life is a precious gift which the most conscious of people take for granted from time to time.  We are human after all.  The thing that is important to remember is why are you living?

Do you go from your job to your home without stopping to sing a song?  Did you peck your husband on the cheek or grab him at the door and really shared that Tic Tac with him?  You were tied up in the grocery store and told your friend that you would call her back.  Did you?  Your mother invited you to family dinner but you were too tired to drive down there.  Did you at least make it for dessert?

As we get caught up in the business of our lives, it is important to remember to actually live.  When you wake up, spend a minute or two reflecting on yourself or something that you want to focus on that day.  As you eat, taste the food instead of inhaling it.  Do you really like scrambled eggs or would you prefer waffles with honey?  You go to work every single day plus overtime.  You deserve to schedule a vacation and not to think about anything but that beautiful beach.

If something or someone is important to you, always take the opportunity to either voice that or share it in some way shape or form.  Schedule that tea that you have been meaning to do but just can’t find the right time.  The right time is now.  Say hello to that person that you have thought of but just can’t seem to fit into that giant schedule app on your IPHONE.  Maybe you can see that movie with your mother instead of at home.

While you are making such strides, remember yourself.  You are an important asset to others as well as to yourself.  If you do not put your foot down and value yourself as a treasure, others will also have a difficult time doing so.  If you need to dance with you shadow in toe socks, go for it.

Paint your toenails that wild wacky color because you saw it on Youtube and that it was zany.  Take yourself on a date to the garden in your backyard even if it doesn’t exist yet.  You are giving yourself the freedom to enjoy your life.

Things happen and people move away for whatever reason.  All of us get extremely busy.  Sometimes, all we have left are thoughts of bonds that have been shared in the past.  Take the time to cultivate what you have or want to have.  It could be a relationship (platonic/self/romantic) or a dream.  Spend your time working towards such things.  In the end, I plan to be the grandmother with the long silver locks playing that organ.  It would be nice to hear the colorful stories that others have to share after the serenade.  In order for that to happen, we have to live now; do not wait for tomorrow because it is not written in stone.  You have this moment.  You have this breath.  Put it to good use and watch the fruits of your labor manifest into something wonderful.



1.) Reach out to your friends and have a monthly get together: potluck, movie, walk in the park etc. Talk, laugh, be silly.  Find that inner girl.

2.) Turn off the IPHONE and understand that Facebook will be there when you get back.

3.) If something important is happening in your life, call the people that are important to you and share it with them.  They will soon realize why they have been informed.

4.) If you are in a romantic relationship, have that special time together.  Treasure your bond.

5.) Tell your friends that you love them every chance that you get.  It does go a long way.

6.) Call your mother.  Spend time with your grandmother.  These are the wise women that support us; our first teachers, and the ones that worry about us the most.

**A connection with another person is to be celebrated at the highest level.

We need each other.  No man is an island and women need to be in the circle.