My push to be social and actually interact with other people has been going quite well this season. For some reason, my busy month has not been busy. However, there have been tons of events where I have been invited as a guest. Yesterday alone found me at two of them. The morning was an annual ladies’ brunch. Each woman is responsible for bringing a dish to a designated home and everyone sits and talks and eats delicious food. My contribution is the entertainment. Why? Gatherings that have entertainment are memorable and have ambiance. Since she has been gracing my family functions with her talent, I called upon a favorite poetess of mine. Red Writing Hood has the unique ability of combining class with hard core reality. When she makes her entrance, no announcement is necessary. Everyone knows that she has arrived.
As she warmed up the audience to her presentation, the guests settled into their seats preparing for the show. There were rounds of applause and several amens. Her words brought the women together, and they embraced her as their own. I had the chance to actually sit down and enjoy conversation with her over a delicious plate. Do you know what it is for two busy people to sit down and just talk in the month of December? The wonderful exchange was completed with group pictures and lots of merriment.
After the brunch, I found myself headed home to rest before my second party of of the day. Work was having a holiday party. No, my shadow has never darkened such a doorway until now. A glass of wine and shrimp made for a surprisingly smashing time. The conversation was light, and the highly anticipated awkwardness simply was not there. Who knew. Two more invitations have arrived for me to attend impromptu celebrations. If my schedule allows, I think that I am going.

Social Outings: Effort

I am introverted. It was about two years ago when I realized that social situations make me nervous. I intentionally avoid them and only attend when I know a lot of people. Well, such social anxiety has contributed to singledom amongst other things. When I started to understand my behavior and took steps to change it, a romantic association landed in my lap; so no used to that. Why? I am normally at my house reviewing my very busy schedule that includes everything in the world except true social interaction that is beyond my control.
When I received an invitation to a pool party this evening, I graciously accepted. Why? Well, I only knew one person, it was close to me, and I was thankful for the invitation. It was a chance for me to get out of the house and be around people.
My time was well spent swimming in the pool and contributing to decent conversation. The dancing and dessert were not bad either.
My work played a huge part in making me a shy person. I am used to people coming up to me and talking. When placed in a social situation that requires that I talk to complete strangers, I get extremely nervous. My comfort box is completely taken from me, and I used to avoid it at all costs. Since taking baby steps to try it out, I even explained my situation to people. The responses were very encouraging. I found out that I am not the only one that feels like that, and sometimes, I am even able to help other people join the fun as well.

The Need

It was a Friday. After spending large amounts of time inside the house, I was dying to escape and rejoin the world outside. However, I find myself in my typical situation: I am single, most of my friends are in relationships….who is available? It has been an effort of mine not to spend so much time alone as it is very easy for me to do. A friend and I decided to rendezvous at a local museum. Pictures and laughter were followed by a late lunch. Text messages and phone calls reminded us that other people wanted to escape the house as well. We ended up on the beach looking at the full moon. Many thoughts entered my mind.
If I wanted to get out of the house, and my friend wanted to get out of the house, and both of us received other notifications from others that wanted to get out, what is going on where we are so disconnected? Has FB lost its allure? Did the new season on NETFLIX wear thin? Are we finally seeking meaningful conversations and actual connections with other human beings that sustain beyond a five minute textversation? When did we get to the point that our lives were so busy that a basic human connection got lost in the mix?
A few months ago, I made it a point of calling people instead of texting them. Friends immediately answered the phone and the reactions ran the gamut: What happened? What a pleasant surprise. Is this something that I need to do again? These reactions happened because I used to be a talking person and then fell into the habit of texting everything. Why? It is easier to do, and you do not have to interrupt anything; you do not actually have to speak to anyone and can continue liking posts on FB. While I do snail mail actual cards, and write letters in pen, perhaps there are other ways that people would love to remember that we do need each other.