My Community of Women: New Thoughts, Basic Needs

Crystal & Crystal

Crystal & Crystal

What is the name of the magic that happens when women congregate with each other? It is a universal sensation. At some point, the thought enters our heads that you know, I want to hang out with other women such as myself. No kids. No men. No talk about the 9-5pm. Let’s just get together and enjoy the finer things in life. Connections and new support systems occur because of such gatherings. Memories are made and selfies galore attack social media.
Movements exist in the modern day on this very ancient concept: Sister Talk, Girl Connections, Girls’ Night Out, Women’s Circles….all of them are based on the various needs of our feminine community. As a proud facilitator of women’s circles, I know of the need for such concepts because of how they sustain us. Women need their own space in which to express themselves and develop. It is also a chance to see the wonderful personalities that exist among us.
As the first month of a new year comes to a close, my heart wants more for my little circle. It is time for us to leave the beach as a main fixture. We need to get out into the community and be seen by others sitting down in coffee houses. December saw the introduction of focus groups which will continue into the Spring. Discussions should remain but let’s step up the accountability of each other. There are new business owners that would benefit from casual mentoring conversations. Every single one of us would benefit from tea, coffee, or even a nice glass of wine. Our village should be in place so that it can grow. It is our responsibility to do such things so that our daughters can easily take our places.
What thoughts do you have about your community of women? Do you think that it should focus on a new agenda?

JAMAICA: THE QUESTION

It was the very height of the holiday season. The queen mother announced that she would be traveling home to see her ailing sister, an aunt that I knew nothing about. When she said this aloud, I knew that second that I would be on that plane sitting next to her. There were things that I wanted to know. There were answers that my heart sought. My very existence was an extension of this one island nation. Without understanding how I was going on the trip, I expressed an interest on when she would buy the ticket for herself; I wanted to be informed.

Once at home, I began packing. There was no explanation as to how I was going to pull it off, but I knew that I had to go. Plane tickets are expensive, and I did not have the money to pay my bills let alone travel. Within three days time, a hefty sum of money manifested through surprise refunds and jobs that required my expertise. Upon informing her that I was going with her, she began to laugh. Apparently, the king father said that it was a pity that I could not go with her due to my job. This decision shocked both of them. I contacted the friends that needed to know that I would be in the air. It is a practice of mine to make my peace with people prior to traveling in the event God should call upon me to depart this realm. After informing my boss of the predicament, my mother and I made our way out of the country.

My heart does not belong in the city of an island. It belongs on the quiet beach with the beautiful waters. I spent a lot of time in the mountains visiting with country folk. They have a common practice of burying the dead on the same property. Miguel the pig was introduced with me along with a host of goats, chickens, and underfed dogs. I had the opportunity to pray at the most beautiful river and spent time in some beautiful historic spots.

While en route to visit my ailing aunt, my stomach became difficult to deal with. The ride through the mountains to her residence was unberable for me. I later realized that it was impossible for me to deal with the situation on a physical level. Thank god for Ting as it calmed my upset stomach. The family scene was grim. There was one leg. There were tears. I watched as the previous generation of women in my family embraced for the first time in years.
It was a touching moment. Things that I thought were unique about me are actually genetic.

The visions that were projected through me during this time were often quite vivid and colorful. The spirits in the mountains speak of the original motherland and the torture that has been experienced as a people at the hands of murderers and thieves. As poor as the people are financially, they are equally rich in spirit and life. Culture is abundant and free and there are many smiles everywhere you go. My god what a truly magnificent place.

Did I get the answers you ask? Yes, I did. I plan to return this year under happy circumstances. The beach will be my residence, and my sisters will be at my side. Until I return, the island nation that contributed to my origin holds a special place in my heart. Land of my ancestors, place of my beloved mother, the key to my path. Many more questions still linger. Other countries hold the answers to those but, one trip at a time.

RANDOM RAMBLINGS

Friday has finally come to my rescue and saved me from the hellatious routine of work. My slow weekend is pulling in like a gentle breeze. I look forward to some smooth jazz and wonderful company coupled with intense workouts. Something did cross my mind, and I decided to do some investigating.

It wasn’t too long ago that I began to study cycles hence my obsession with the moon. (The New Moon is upon us. This is a wonderful opportunity for you to set the intention for this new cycle. Plant your seed and watch it grow:) I learned how to create my 52 day life calendar which gives me insight into my own personal cycles in life. During this particular period, feeling restless is normal, and I am to avoid over thinking. Look at that. Isn’t that my week in a nutshell? Neck tension. Headaches. Appetite withdrawl. Lower tolerance for things that do not serve me including time eaters…..I have sent a record number of emails about problems this week. I am simply trying to protect my throat chakra and expect to receive the expert to present this shortly. I even encountered difficulty with meditation this week. Here are my proposed solutions for myself:

(1.) A slower pace leads to a slower mind. If I feel rushed, the root of the problem must be found and turned off. Going to bed earlier and waking up earlier can assist as well as by enforcing structure throughout the day.

(2.) I experimented with meditating prior to sunrise in bed. This truly put me in between both worlds. I was more awake in one than the other, and the magical music soothed the tension in my head. Because the ebb and flow of life constantly change, sometimes my meditation practice has to change as well in spite of my obsessive Piscean trends.

(3.) Working out is fantastic; however, it must be coupled with the appropriate time for you as well as with the appropriate type of workout. Some days, you may want to go for two long intense hours in the gym while other days will be perfect with a simple walk around the block with the dog. I went swimming on Sunday, but Thursday may find me rock climbing.

(4.) By Monday, I hope to replace my obscure cup of coffee with tea. The caffeine in my system isn’t good for me and interferes with the normal function of my body. I did miss the taste of it but that craving can be put on a leash now. I have had a whole week and was proud of myself for drinking more water to combat the drying effect that coffee has on your body.

(4.) While I do maintain a personal meditation practice, I also meditate with a group when the opportunity presents itself. I have even begun to “team” meditate which is something that I will present in the next circle. My current research with meditation has been translated into a project which shall be discussed at a later date.

(5.) I need to go to the beach more often. Time in the garden or a walk in the park are wonderful things to do; however, my main event is grouding myself in the waves and allowing the mother ocean to hug me with her loving energy. When I think about the fact that the ocean once covered the earth, I humble myself in knowing that she left some land alone so that we could have somewhere to live.

I have also had the good fortune to have the most wonderful sisters in the world. My morning began with one of my favorite people ever calling to check on me. The feeling that I get when a sister intentionally takes time out of her busy schedule to see how I am doing first thing in the morning is truly something special. This is a loving act that I hope everyone gets to be a part of. We are not islands but human beings that are connected to each other if we only take the time to feel that. Speaking of feeling….

Follow your feelings. Listen to them about your body. You know when something needs to be changed or if you need to be seen by a medical professional. Sometimes, you will get the distinct feeling that there is someone that appreciates your presence. Well, that is not your imagination. Pick up the phone and schedule tea because chances are very high that you enjoy that person’s presence also. When two people are able to work toward a common goal, the path has more light because of the combined energies. The resonation of that vibration can have a ripple effect and benefit many aspects of life. Two women laughing is better than one woman laughing. A happy woman can change the atmoshpere of society.

The hour is late, and my desire to have a refreshed feeling in the morning is paramount. Perhaps a spot of tea, light prayer, and a few deep breaths shall prepare me for the remainder of the night. The weekend brings thoughts of creativity and relaxation. I shall have both.

MY FIRST WOMENS’ CIRCLE: THE FACILITATOR

We are all a part of different types of circles: work, friends, family, etc. This summer found my mind wandering to a circle of sisterhood hence the blog. However, I knew that a live extension of that had to occur. I wanted to have something that would be a throwback to ancient times when women were sisters and honored each other as well as themselves. I knew that I want to form a circle for women to come together.

Here I am hours before I head to the beach hoping that it will be a nice experience for all of the women involved. The plan has been set, and text messages have been received. I am looking forward to forming sisterly connections during this full moon in Aquarius.

Afterwards…..
I am so happy that this has finally manifested into reality. It was such a joy to share and connect with other women under the full moon on the beach. What a special time for us. Our journey is not always easy but together, we can learn from each other and conquer our greatest fears.