At the final hour, I decided to get all dolled up and catch the EWO show in Hollywood. I did not intend to stay long since it is the middle of the week, and I have just gotten back to sleeping regurlarly. While I was expecting to have a glass of wine and eat food, neither of those things happened.

Instead, I found myself driving home in search of food. Wendys looked good, but the line was long. McDonalds was tempting but all of the preservative warnings from Facebook crept into my head. Publix appeared on the horizon just as a torrential downpour, courtesy of Hurricane Sandy, decided to do its worst. Finally, I gave up and surrendered to cooking yet another meal. It wasn’t long before I happily enjoyed steamed mushrooms with garlic. My tea is seeping as we speak. I shall add organic honey to it momentarily.

One of my friends took a picture with me at the show. I address her as the natural goddess as she only eats veggies and wears her hair in the most beautiful locks that I have ever seen. She mentioned that I had lost weight. While my exercise regimen has been light, I have made it a point to watch what I eat. It is not easy for me since I do not like to cook and do not fancy myself a picky person when it comes to food. My water intake could be better and the probiotics are not as regular as I would like. I also do not turn down dessert as a rule. EVER!

In the process of trying to take care of myself, there are some things that I try to keep in mind:
1.) If it goes in, it must come out.
2.) I am what I eat. If I do not want to look like a fried cheeseburger, I better not eat one.
3.) Sleeping at night is important. When my body does not have it, it fights with my mind. This is then called an internal war.

4.) Exercise can be a brisk walk to the store or a thirty minute boogie with my shadow. As long as I sweat, there is hope.

5.) I always try to vent my frustrations to a listening party.
6.) I surround myself with positive people and those that show me proper examples of living by doing it themselves.

7.) Tea and Shea Butter are important in my life.
8.) Prayer changes things. It does not have to be elaborate or in a specific place. It must be heartfelt.

9.) Solitude and meditation are requirements of life…
10.) Always have a bottle of wine ready in the event a sister wants to pop over…..

One day, maybe I will write about relationships but do not hold your breath…


As I took my walk before sunset, I saw a young woman lighting a cigarette at a bus stop. This scene brought many thoughts to my mind. How old were you when you began doing this, and is this something that you plan to continue doing? Do you know how toxic it is to your health? Do you care? You are so young.

My walk continued down the block as the cars rushed by no doubt hurrying to work. Where was that young woman headed with that cigarette while boarding a public bus. It made me think about her life, and the choices that she had to make. Something led her to inhaling harsh fumes into her lungs. How many of us smoke cigarettes?

It is not only an act of buying a pack and lighting up somewhere. Smoking cigarettes could also be repeatedly skipping those workout classes in favor of McDonalds. You paid for the yearly membership because you wanted to lose weight as a New Year’s resolution; however, it was not sincere and you went right back to Walgreens for a pack.

You have friends that you have been meaning to spend time with. That was six months ago. Now, life changes have arisen: marriage, children, that new house on the west side of the country. Did you even know that she had a boyfriend? Were you too caught up in your own life to see that your friend was happy and wished that you had been a part of it?

The guy that you have been seeing never remembers your birthday. When you do spend time with him, there is no affection. You barely have anything in common. Are you really going to continue inahling this cigarette or are you going to give that fresh mountain air a chance?

Old habits die hard. Patterns are difficult to break. Many people want band aids instead of getting to the root of the situation. I do not know that girl or her circumstances. However, that pesky habit is not healthy for her, and I can only imagine what internal damage is being caused because of her free choice to light another one. If there is only one cigarette in your box, take that one and work on it. Research the resources, ask for help, strive to be the best you possible.

You may not be a gym person and that is why you avoid going. However, there is a pilates studio down the street and you like the required attire. Why not try that? Karen called just last night to invite you to tea. Instead of texting no you can’t go because you are too tired, why not invite her to try that Pilates class with you and then the two of you can go to Whole Foods for dinner and a nice long girly chat? (working out does wonders for your energy levels). During dinner, she just may tell you that Alex just got back to town and was asking for you. The universe wants you to stop smoking too if only you give it a chance by acknowledging its signs.


Sometimes, I want sympathy for being f***able. I was asked why I would want sympathy instead of congratulations. Well, I get congrats all the time. People stop me in the streets, friends admire(the fake ones were lost with the weight), and the sight of my own body in progress is a huge accomplishment for me. The sympathy comes in here.

The scheduling of classes alone takes up some time out of my day. When I have to reschedule a workout session, that is potentially detrimental because I like to have between 3-4 times a week in whatever studio I support at the time. I pay torturemasters to kick me around because if left to my own devices, I would give a Teletubby a run for its money. Once my body begins to detox, I can’t eat the same old junk anymore which requires healthy cooking. Did I mention the probiotics three times a day, the different teas, and water intake? I get to dress differently because my old clothes hang off me. Its a beautiful thing working towards a healthy version of me…but sometimes, Lady wants a hug of understanding how difficult it is trying to maintain the new me.

Maybe I shall ask my current instructors….


Sometimes, a girl just wants something different for a meal. Ever since I went to the new Whole Foods Market two weeks ago, some thoughts have been prancing around my mind. As I wandered around this afternoon in search of lunch, I pondered those thoughts once again.

What is it about a health food store that makes you feel so happy? It is different from shopping at Publix. The smells are intoxicating and fresh. The food tastes rather delicious, and the associates walk around sharing their knowledge and are quite friendly. I simply love the aisles with soap and mineral soaks. There is always something interesting to see. This is an environment that does something for your hunger as well as your spirit; you are uplifted.

There is only one problem that blocks me from shopping there now. It used to be the distance but that has been removed from the equation. The cost for all of these wonderful advantages is high. However, my health is a priceless investment. The feelings that I get while there do not compare with other food stores. Perhaps, I can consider a small hybrid of sorts just for the energy boost. What are your suggestions my dear sisters? I am open to the enligtenment.